Thursday, May 11, 2006

A PERSON OF CHARACTER


CHARACTER COUNTS !

A person of character ;

Is a good person, someone to look up to and admire.
Knows the difference between right and wrong and always tries to do what is right.
Sets a good example for everyone.
Makes the world a better place.
Lives according to the “Six Pillars of Character”

1. TRUSTWORTHINESS
2. RESPECT
3. RESPONSIBILITY
4. FAIRNESS
5. CARING
6. CITIZENSHIP



TRUSTWORTHINESS

DO:
Stand up for your beliefs
Follow your conscience
Be honorable and upright
Live by your principles no matter what others say
Have the courage to do what is right and to try new things even when it is hard, costly
Build and guard your reputation

DON’T:
Do anything wrong
Lose heart if you fail or don’t get what you want

DO:
Tell the truth and nothing but the truth
Be sincere
Be forthright and candid

DON’T:
Lie, Cheat, Steal, Be sneaky, tricky, or deceptive

DO:
Keep your promises
Honor your word and commitments
Be dependable
Do what you are supposed to do
Return what you borrow
Pay your debts
Be on time

DO:
Stand by and protect your family, friends, school and country
Be a good friend
Look out for those who care about you
Keep secrets of those who trust you

DON’T:
Betray a trust
Let your friends hurt themselves
Do anything just so others will like you
Ask a friend to do anything wrong or spread gossip that could hurt others


RESPECT

DO:
Treat others the way you want to be treated
Respect the dignity, privacy and freedom of all individuals
Value and honor all people, no matter what they can do for you or to you
Respect others’ property — take good care of property you are allowed to use and don’t take or use property without permission
Respect the autonomy of others — tell them what they should know to make good choices about their own lives

DON’T:
Use or manipulate others l Abuse, demean, or mistreat anyone

DO:
Judge others on their character, abilities, and conduct without regard to race, religion, gender, where they live, how they dress, or the amount of money they have
Be tolerant, respectful, and accepting of those who are different from you
Listen to others and try to understand their points of view

DO:
Resolve disagreements, respond to insults, and deal with anger peacefully and
without violence

DON’T:
Use threats or physical force to get what you want or to express anger

DO:
Use good manners l Be courteous, polite and civil to everyone

DON’T:
Use put-downs, insults or ridicule to embarrass or hurt others.


RESPONSIBILITY

DO:
Know and do your duty
Acknowledge and meet your legal and moral obligations

DO:
Accept responsibility for the consequences of your choices, not only for what you do but what you don’t do
Think about consequences on yourself and others before you act
Think long-term
Do what you can do to make things better
Set a good example

DON’T:
Look the other way when you can make a difference l Make excuses or blame others

DO:
Your best
Persevere
Don’t quit
Be prepared
Be diligent
Work hard
Make all you do worthy of pride

DO:
Take charge of your own life
Set realistic goals
Keep a positive outlook
Be prudent and self-disciplined with your health, emotions, time and money
Be rational — act out of reason not anger, revenge or fear l Know the difference between what you have a right to do and what is right to do
Be self-reliant — manage your life so you are not dependent on others; pay your own way whenever you can


FAIRNESS

DO:
Be fair and just
Treat people equally
Make decisions without favoritism or prejudice
In imposing punishment be sure the consequences for wrongdoing are consistent, certain, and proportional (not too harsh or lenient)

DON’T:
Take more than your fair share
Take advantage of or blame others unfairly

DO:
Be open-minded and impartial — consider what people have to say before you decide
Be careful — get the facts, including opposing viewpoints, before making decisions (especially blaming or accusing another)

CARING

DO:
Be compassionate and empathetic
Be kind, loving, and considerate
Be thankful and express gratitude for what people do for you
Forgive others for their shortcomings

DON’T:
Be mean, cruel or insensitive

DO:
Be charitable and altruistic — give money, time, support, comfort without strings for the sake of making someone else’s life better, not for praise or gratitude
Help people in need

CITIZENSHIP

DO:
Be a good citizen and a good neighbor l Care about and pursue the common good
Be a volunteer — help your school and community be better, cleaner, and safer
Protect the environment by conserving resources, reducing pollution, and cleaning up
after yourself
Participate in making things better by voicing your opinion, voting, serving on committees, reporting wrongdoing and paying taxes

DO:
Play by the rules
Obey parents, teachers, coaches, and others who have been given authority
Observe just laws
Honor and respect principles of democracy


The Six Pillars of Character,” and the “Pursuing Victory With Honor” sportsmanship campaign are service marks and projects of the Josephson Institute of Ethics.
PersonOfCharacter©2003
Josephson Institute


"QUIS UT DEUS"

FAITH ZEAL COMMUNITY

Ten Commandments For Good Manners

Ten Commandments For Good Manners

1. Thou Shalt Be Thyself.
Good Manners begin with a good sense of self. Unless you are true to yourself, you can never be true to others. You are unique. Don't try to shape your personality to meet circumstances. Be natural, and the world will respect you for what you are.

2. Thou Shalt Say "Thank You."
Thanking others is a way of praising them and is one of the keys to having good manners. Send thank-you notes whenever someone does something nice for you, or telephone to express your gratitude. This simple act will help build lasting relationships. When someone gives you a compliment, the best response is a simple "thank you." And don't forget "Please," "Excuse me," and "You're welcome," which are other marks of good manners.

3. Thou Shalt Give Compliments.
A fundamental rule of good manners is to give. Think about what you can give to others, and remember that the most precious gifts cost nothing. When you meet someone, you can always think of a genuine compliment to give. A "Hello" or "How are you?" is not enough. You can also give your undivided attention and interest to others. You can be generous with words of praise, warm greetings, sympathy, love, or other good news.

4. Thou Shalt Not be Boastful, Arrogant or Loud.
Always exercise restraint and good taste. Your voice, your behavior and even your clothing should reflect understated elegance. Only a small person brags about accomplishments; a well-mannered person has no need for self-advertisement. Let your deeds speak for themselves.

5. Thou Shalt Listen Before Speaking.
Respect for others is a prerequisite of good manners. Listening to others is a way to show respect. There is no worse company than a person that does not listen. Be genuinely interested in others; learn their names, and encourage them to talk about themselves. Never interrupt. Look them in the eye, and listen carefully. The listener learns and thereby gains.

6. Thou Shalt Speak with Kindness and Caution.
Before speaking to others, consider what effect your words will have. Pause and weigh your words carefully and say them with a quality of softness. A slip of the tongue can inflict needless hurt. Also, remember the language of the body (your posture and your mannerisms) is as important as the language of words.

7. Thou Shalt Not Criticize or Complain.
A person with good manners is above criticizing others or complaining about circumstances. Negativity is any form is to be avoided. If you hear gossip, don't join in, be indifferent to it. If you disagree with others, do so respectfully. Don't verbally attack or condemn them. You may win the argument, but lose a valued friend.

8. Thou Shalt Be Punctual.
Appreciate the value of time, yours and others. If you make an appointment, arrive on time. If you must be late, call first.
Never arrive early for a social engagement; your host may still be getting dressed!
Don't overstay your welcome. Lingering good-byes merely cause frustration and can ruin an otherwise good time. A quick, simple exit at the proper time is usually appreciated.

9. Thou Shalt Not Embarrass Others.
Treat others as you would like to be treated, and think of how you can put them at ease. The feelings of other people can be as fragile as fine crystal. Never demean anyone with rude jokes or an unwelcome nickname. Be considerate. In conversation, never ask embarrassing questions such as how much was paid for a new item or about matters of th heart. It's always good manners to think of others first.

10. Thou Shalt Act and Look Your Best.
A gracious friend is never ruffled. Be a calming, happy influence in any stressful situation and maintain your composure. See humor whenever possible. Master self-control and have empathy for others. Always act your best with courtesy and politeness.
Each day dress as if it were your only chance to shine. A smile should top your list of accessories. Your home, car and workplace should reflect your best. They should be tidy, neat and well organized.
Table manners are important. Observe rules of proper conduct, such as not speaking with food in your mouth and not eating until the host has been seated. Eat slowly, enjoying each bite. Savor the moments when good friends, good conversation and good manners bring about the best life has to offer.

Copyright 1987 Larry G. Evans